Friday, 13 March 2015



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culled from:pulse.ng

Marriages are supposed to last a lifetime, but for that to happen, you need to enter into the union with 100 percent assurance that you're doing the right thing.
Are you getting married, or planning to get married in the future? If your answer is yes, then you need to be able to answer some vital questions.
Before you go ahead to tie the knot, ponder over these 10 questions below, and your answers will let you know if you're on the right track or not:
  1. Are you ready to commit to spending the rest of your life with your partner? Committing to spending the rest of your life with someone is not an easy decision. You need to make sure you are truly ready for it. Over the course of your married life, you and your spouse will change in many ways. You want to be able to spend the rest of your live and grow old together with this person. Being committed to each other will help you thrive as a married couple, and also become a better person.
  2. Are you ready to put this persons needs above your wants? Marriage is about give and take, especially during the first few years. You will go through some adjustments that will require putting your spouses needs above your wants. Are you really ready for that? You might have to stop buying your dream car or house, just so you can put the money towards helping your spouse finish their education. You will have to make some sacrifices.
  3. Would you be faithful, and trustworthy? This question ties in with being ready to spend the rest of your life with the person you marry. If you cannot be faithful with your partner, do not bother about getting married. It's that simple!
  4. Can you spend the rest of your life with this person if he/she was incapacitated? This is one question we all look forward to answering,  but life is unpredictable. You could be walking with both legs today, but be without your legs tomorrow from a car accident. Can you support, and be there forever with your future spouse if something like this happens?
  5. Are you emotionally and physically attracted to your partner? Your decision to marry someone should not be based entirely on physical appearance. However, because of all the beautiful people we see, and communicate with everyday, you should make sure you are physically attracted to your partner. If not, you would end up being unhappy with your spouse's looks, which could eventually lead to other problems.
  6. Are you the person he/she has been looking for, and wants to marry? If you do not possess the standards he/she wants in a future spouse, it's time to ponder about your decision again. Remember, marriage is not easy, therefore marry someone who has been looking for someone with your personality and character traits. You don't want someone trying to change you, or vie versa.
  7. Do you share similar lifestyle, family, marriage, and life goals? Imagine getting married to someone who likes to travel frequently, whereas you hate to travel. Would you be able to live a happy, and enjoyable life together? Do you even know what you want in life, for a career, family, etc? When you marry someone, you are agreeing to help them have a fulfilling life, and should be interested in things they like. You will definitely have some differences but let your differences compliment each other.
  8. Do you both want to have children? If you want to have children someday, and your partner doesn't want to, you two have to sit down and discuss whether moving forward with your marriage plans is the best thing for both of you.
  9. Do you share the same beliefs? Sharing the same belief system is an important element of most successful marriages. By sharing the same beliefs you will have another way to connect, grow, and help each other. And when your children (if you have children) get older, it makes it easier to teach them what your beliefs are without having much conflict.
  10. When you argue or disagree with your partner what happens? Fights, and arguments are bound to happen after you get married. You have to be able to compromise, and agree on various issues. And being able to understand it does not have to be your way all the time but OUR way, will go a long way in ensuring you have a great marriage.

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