Six Things That Make a Woman Bad in Bed

cullled from:hookingupsmart.com

1. Passivity

Men refer to women who just “lie there” as Dead Fish, Dead Lay and Corpse. It’s not true that men just want an orifice and nothing else. Men want and need to know that the woman is really into having sex specifically with them.
“Show some enthusiasm. We want you to be as into it as we are. It makes us want to try new things and figure you out a bit.”
“The most boring thing a woman can do is not move. It’s even worse if she is totally silent.”
“Gyration is the ticket.”
“They call it bump, so bump.”
“There’s nothing worse than a chick that just lies there…might as well be doing it with a pillow.”
“Not moving her hips would pretty much kill it.”
“When she doesn’t touch you, but lets you do whatever.”
“Not giving feedback. Make some noise, something.”
You’ve got to meet a man halfway during sex. Participate.

2. Insecurity

Men lose desire for women who have no confidence in their physical attributes or sexual appeal.
“I hate it when a chick doesn’t want me to look at her body. Whether it’s turning out the lights or avoiding morning sex, my attraction for a girl takes a dive when she does that.”
“When she doesn’t trust her instincts. Some girls flop around like manatees, have all these crazy moves, think they are being so hot, but they’re a mess. It has to be real.”
“Unless it’s her first time, I hate when a girl acts all nervous or scared.”
“Any kind of worrying about their appearance. Some girls start worrying about what’s happening with their makeup. Gross.”
“A woman should learn to receive compliments. When I compliment a girl, and she contradicts it, I know the sex won’t be any good. If I tell you that you have a hot body, just smile like you know it’s true. Don’t go telling me I’m wrong!”
Feeling secure during sex has a lot to do with trust. This is one of the reasons that casual sex is very awkward and unnatural for many women.

3. Lack of creativity

Men have a strong preference for sexual variety. This is most easily met by having sex with different women. If you want a man to be monogamous, you need to find ways to keep things fresh and interesting.
“The sex is scripted – it’s the same thing each time. I’m not going to do this for the rest of my life.”
“I hate when a woman gets lazy in a relationship. It gets to be 10 minutes instead of 2 hours. It’s boring. Why bother?”
“Only wanting missionary.”
“Doggie style is always appreciated.”
“It’s best when sex engages all five senses: touch, smell, taste, sound and vision.”
“Men are very visual. Give us something to look at. Woman on top is good for this.”
“Try something new and pay close attention to how I react. I’ll let you know if I like being touched a certain way.”
“Just do the unexpected. Men love surprises during sex.”
“Take a chance. Try something new. To be honest, if it hurts a little bit that gets me going.”
“Finding a new place to have sex always kick starts things.”
Approach sex with a desire to discover new things, and be receptive to your partner’s suggestions. If he asks for something that isn’t harmful, try it.

4. Making your needs subservient to his.

Men want women who 1) love sex 2) with them.
“Your own pleasure is the key – orgasm or bust. That’s really hot.”
“We get off on your enjoyment. Look us in the eye and tell us exactly what’s good.”
“Flip the script and get dominant. When a woman climbs on top of me and pins my wrists down that’s super hot.”
“Whatever you do, don’t fake an orgasm. It makes us both a loser.”
“I want a woman to go after what she needs.”
“I know that every woman is different. Yeah, I know where the clit is, but not how a particular woman wants me to touch it. You’ve got to say what you want. “
Let biology prevail here. The human may be the only female mammal capable of having an orgasm. Don’t waste that.

5. Lack of oral sex.

No explanation needed. It’s an important part of the repertoire for almost every guy.
“The hummer test is crucial.”
“If she won’t swallow it’s a turnoff.”
“Teeth.”
“Any kind of scraping sensation.”
“A good BJ includes more than a mouth. At least one hand.”
“If she likes giving head, or makes me believe she likes it with me, I’m psyched.”
“Don’t forget to give some attention to the boys.”

6. Rudeness

Rude or inconsiderate women will be that way during sex, so it’s caveat emptor here as far as I’m concerned. Here are examples of behaviors that are understandably off-putting from either sex.
“When she has any awareness whatsoever of her phone.”
“Texting or taking a call.”
“Not caring if I finish or not.”
“Getting oral and not reciprocating. If you won’t do it, you shouldn’t be getting it either.”
“When she acts distracted, like her mind is obviously elsewhere.”
“Bringing up something during sex that has nothing to do with sex.”
“Criticizing in a way that is not constructive.”
“Comparing me to any other guy, or referring to other sexual experiences.”

Anon, there’s lots of good stuff here. Most of the feedback from guys has to do with attitude, not any specific sexual skill. In fact, one guy actually said: