How to Make Sex Important in a Relationship

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Make sure you actually care about your significant other. Sex in a relationship is more then just "getting it on". You need to feel a connection before having sex or else it will not be as satisfying as it might be. Express your love for your partner with verbal appreciation and compliments.

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   Play around and do fun stuff together! Once again, connect! The trade-off for having something amazing is to work towards it. You both will value and cherish each other every time you have sex, if you take your time getting to know one another!
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   Make love, not war. You want to be in a good mood, and you want her/him to be in a good mood to make sex important. Chances are if you both are happy before you do it, you will want to keep doing it again and again until the end of time. Sex is supposed to make you feel good about yourself and about your relationship.
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   Show your partner respect. Listen to your partner and look at your partner when she/he talks. Offer thoughtful responses. Value these verbal interactions. You do not have to always agree on all topics, but understand each other's point-of-view.
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   Make sex important in your relationship by making time for it. Do not let your priorities fall by the wayside by emphasizing mundane things that take up your time. Do you need to read the newspaper plus watch the TV news? Put sex on the calendar just like other important notices, if necessary, if you need help in allocating your time.
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   Depending upon your partner's temperament, surprise her/him. For example, while sitting side-by-side on the couch watching a DVD, during a romantic scene, a guy might put the movie on pause, then start kissing and undressing his partner. For another example, while a gal's partner is reading the newspaper, she could playfully come up between his legs under the paper, unzip his pants and give him a slow handjob or blow job.
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   Touch and kiss your partner often. Jobs, errands, and appointments can keep two people apart for many hours of the day. However, when you are home together, don't forget the loving touches.