Thursday, 12 March 2015


Part 1 of 3: Testing the Waters

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    Get her attention. That doesn’t mean you have to stare at her until she feels creeped out and wonders why you’re looking at her. What you really need to do are things that will make her interested in knowing you before you approach her. That way, when you do approach her, she’ll be open to hearing what you have to say.
    • She'll want to know what you are trying to say, but you don't want to give your position away. Ways you know if she is right for you is to match your personalities. Sprinkle in some questions about her to her or her friends. But not so many in a row or you may get her suspicious and scare her off.

    Part 2 of 3: Being Ready

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      Dress nicely. Girls notice appearance right away, especially shoes. It’s how they assess whether you’re a safe person to talk to and someone interesting. Make sure you’re ready for the day when her eyes might meet yours. Always look your best and be on top of your game. That way, when she looks your way, you’ll feel confident.
      • Wear the clothes that make you feel good about yourself but also look good on you.
      • Wear cheerful colors. This doesn’t mean you have to wear tennis ball green, but if you wear muted colors like grays and blacks everyday, no one will notice you, especially the girl you’ve got your eye on.
      • Look neat. No one is interested in approaching a slob. If you look like you’re happy to get up and get dressed in the morning, everyone will want to know you, especially that special girl. Leave the smelly sneakers with holes in them in the garage and put effort into your look. Girls spend a lot of time getting ready and looking good, so they really appreciate a guy who puts the same effort into the way he looks. She will notice.
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      Smell good! Women have a perceptive sense of smell, and most of them love a man that smells good. Make sure she likes your scent.
      • Shower daily. If you are an athlete, shower after sports activities as well.
      • Brush your teeth well and don't forget the back of your tongue where all the smelly bacteria collects.
      • Floss your teeth daily. Removing bacteria between your teeth and on the back of your tongue will get rid of bad breath.
      • Have several winter fresh or spearmint breath-mints in your pocket. She will never kiss you if your breath is bad.
      • Wear cologne, but just a splash - one to two squirts max, not the whole bottle or the cologne will act as a girl repellent. I would recommend something from a department store not a grocery store. One bottle will last most guys a year or more. If you really want to get to know this girl, she’ll be worth it. If you shower, brush, floss, wear a splash of cologne, and you pop a mint in your mouth right before you talk to her, she’ll not only talk to you, she’ll appreciate your cleanliness and remember your smell.
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      Have some questions ready, and approach her when she is walking or sitting by herself. To get the conversation started, you can ask something like, "Can you believe she actually gave us homework over break?" or, “Didn’t you love that band that played at the café last week?” Be friendly and greet her with a smile and a simple “Hello.” You’d be surprised how well hello works. Try to make the questions related to how you know each other, like the class you have together or the work training that you’re both in. Be positive and upbeat. How she feels when you are around her is the most important thing and what she will remember most when she thinks of you later.
      • Comment on the surroundings if you meet this girl at a public place like a bar or park. For example, “Isn’t this a great park to just come and relax?” or, “Have you been here on funk night? It’s a blast!” Don’t offer to buy her a drink until she’s spoken to you for a couple of minutes.
      • Show enthusiasm about whatever topic you choose to bring up. A flat personality and monotone voice will only cause her to turn away and give you a one word answer. You can approach her on the dance floor, but be cautious. Her friends are going to protect her and naturally ward off predators. They came to dance and have a girls night after all. Your best bet is to approach her with a smile and put out your hand and say, “Hi. I’m (your name).” Then address her friends with something like, “Hello ladies. I’m (name).” Her friends will respect you for your bold confidence.
      • Ask her if she’d like to dance or if you can get her a drink at the bar after you've spoken for a few minutes. Remember to have a genuine smile. Girls are used to guys approaching them. She’ll have her guard up before you even say a word. Yet, with the right non-verbal cues, like a warm smile and a clean appearance, she’ll feel safe when she talks with you.

    Part 3 of 3: Keeping Her Interested

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      Be confident. Women are more aware of the confidence a guy has than anything else. How confident a person is can be seen from across a room, and she’ll feel comfortable talking with you if you give her the impression you believe in yourself and your abilities. This does not equate to arrogance. Be self aware and know your strengths.
      • Stand with your shoulders up, and let her know that you know who you are.
      • Take your hands out of your pockets and stand firm on both feet.
      • Wait for the right time to approach her rather than chasing her down.
      • Make eye contact and keep eye contact. Looking away on occasion is normal, but make sure you let her know you're listening to her. Expect to be the one to make the first move. She'll expect you to text or call her first.
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      Be yourself. If you're funny, then make her laugh. If you're smart, then talk about something cool that you know. If you're a musician, talk about what it's like to play an instrument. Try sticking to common interests at first and don't try to impress her. Girls don't like show-offs.
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      Be a good listener. Listen to her stories about her friends or what she thinks is funny. You don't have to agree with her, but don't tell her what to do. Repeat back what she says to you on occasion and don't spend too much time talking about yourself. Give her a full smile to let her know you like her and you're enjoying time with her. Keep your eyes on her. Don't look at or talk about other girls when you're with her. She needs to know that she's the only one on your mind. And put your phone away.
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      Be on time. Never cancel a date with her and show up on time. This will show her that you have made her a priority and she's important to you. If you're picking her up for a date, plan on her possibly being late. Girls put a lot of work into the way they look, so be patient. Your patience will put her at ease and the night will go well.
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      Be a gentleman. Open doors for her and let her walk ahead of you if there's only room for one person on a pathway. Most girls will really appreciate this consideration. Offer your sweatshirt or jacket to her if she gets cold. Girls love wearing the jacket of a guy they like.
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      Break the touch barrier. Once you’ve spent several hours together, and you know she enjoys spending time with you, reach out to her. Physical contact will help to make the conversation more intimate and meaningful.
      • Start by giving her hugs when you say goodbye. Make sure the hugs don't linger longer than 3-6 seconds or she might feel uncomfortable. If she squeezes you back and holds you, you're ready for the next step.
      • Reach for her hand. If she holds your hand back or intertwines her fingers with yours, she's really in to you and wants to be your girlfriend.

1 comment:

  1. Definitely will be taking a lot more chances after reading this article, after all, life is finite. Great read!
    Nice Article