How to Turn a Friend Into a Boyfriend

culled  from:http://youqueen.com


At this very moment, 1 in 10 women aged between 15 and 35 are walking around with a crush on a friend. Okay, I made that statistic up. But it sounds realistic, doesn’t it?
Because after all, we’ve all fallen for a friend at some point in our lives. And why wouldn’t we? Our friends are the people that know the most about us; our good points, our great points and our ‘er, let’s not talk about that’ points too. They know everything about us and still like us. That’s pretty incredible.
But what happens when you want to turn movie time into make out time? What if you don’t want a friend anymore – you want a boyfriend?
Well, then my beautiful ladies, you read on.

#1 Gauge his interest

Okay, so I know we sort of promised you that you could wave a magic wand and your fantastic friend would automatically transform into a beloved boyfriend. But, well, we fibbed. Just a little. Because the fact is that you can’t always get what you want. Don’t believe me? Let’s reminisce:
That pony you wanted for Christmas five years running? Never happened.
The good grade you thought you deserved for a math test you didn’t even study for? Failed.
The perfect birthday party you’d been planning to scrapbook into your ‘Best Memories Ever’? You consider it to be the worst day of your life.
Stuff happens. Life gets in the way of our wants. So if we deal with that up front, there will be less disappointment in the long run.
Okay, now that my spiel is over and we’re on the same page, let’s look at your future boyfriend. With all of this in mind, you need to figure out whether he is feeling the same love vibe.
Because just like you weren’t too keen to have a relationship with the guy who served you fries every afternoon at McDonalds (but who was uber interested in exploring some lip action with you), your friend/future boyfriend might not be feeling the need for a summer romance with you either.
To figure out if he is into you, you just need to pay attention to his behavior and tick off the ‘Interest Checklist’.

• Does he check out your assets out when he thinks you’re not looking?
• Does he find excuses to touch you?
• Has he ever ditched his friends to spend time with you?
• Does he reserve date night times (Friday night, Saturday night) for you?
• Does he seem jealous when you flirt when other guys?
• Does he think your ex-boyfriends weren’t worthy of you?
• Does he call and text you a lot?

How did you go? The target here is to get the maximum amount of ‘yes’ answers. The more positive responses you get, the more likely it is that he’s into you. And once you know the answer, then you can start planning your strategy.

#2 Be prepared to walk away

I’ll be honest. You’re probably going to like step two just as much as you liked the idea of your guy not being into you. But it’s better to get all of the bad stuff out of the way early, right?
Smile. It’s not all bad.
But before we start weaving the fabric of your fairytale romance, you’ll need to make some hard decisions. Just like you can’t always get what you want, things don’t always go the way you want either.
Which is why when you kick-start your Friend into Boyfriend Transformation campaign, you need to ask yourself whether you’re willing to walk away if everything goes pear shaped.
Because it might. Now, we’re not saying it will. But it could. Turning a friend into a boyfriend isn’t as simple as exchanging a few kisses. It’s a whole re-classification of your relationship. And sometimes the initiation of this re-classification fails, or even fails along the way.
So if you really want to make your best bud your boyfriend, you need to be prepared to walk away if it all goes wrong. You could lose the friendship you have in an attempt to get the romance you’ve always wanted.
Are you prepared for that risk?

#3 Burst the friend zone bubble

Now that all Debbie Downer has left the building (sorry for that, but it’s like having small print in competitions – it needs to happen) we can start plotting your way to romantic success.
Get your finest pin out ladies, because we’re about the burst the heck out of that friend zone bubble.
The best way to do this is to change his perception of you. Up until now, you’ve been the girl that he hung out with, played video games with and went to the mall with. Well, sorry Mr. Friendster, but that ain’t going to happen anymore.
From now on, you’re going to become a little bit, how do we say, unavailable, for your future beau.
Oh, so he wants you to come over for popcorn and a movie? Oops, you forgot that it’s a girls night.
He invites you to a football game? Sorry, but you have plans.
He wants you to help him pick out a new shirt? Too bad. You have to wash your hair.
Because as much as he wants you to be available for him 24/7, if you want to burst the friend zone bubble then you can’t always be available for him. Now that doesn’t mean you can’t see him ever again, after all he needs to notice how fantastic you are. But it does mean cutting down the time you spend together.
Spare a moment for your broken heart, and then smother on some war paint. This isn’t kindergarten, ladies. It’s war.

#4 Ice, ice, baby

Next, it’s time to throw some ice between that distance you’ve developed. Not sure what I mean? Well consider how you act around the Friendster.
Likely, you’re one of the following: a gusher, a flutterer, a grinner or a giggler.
I’m sorry but it’s the truth. Even if you don’t normally gush, flutter your eyelashes, grin manically or giggle so much you develop dimples, you probably do one, if not all, of the above around your man.
And while this is sure as heck flattering to his ego, if you want to get him thinking of you as potential girlfriend material then you’ll need to take back some control.
Sure, that means gushing, fluttering, grinning and giggling less. But it also means being a bit cool. Don’t remind him how fabulous, gorgeous, smart, clever or witty he is. Be calm, collected, friendly but not over the top.
Before long, he’ll be wondering whether he imagined your previous behavior and be looking at ways to get that attention back again.

#5 Ignite his inner caveman

Forget about the hair gel that makes him look like Edward from Twilight, the sexy t-shirt that accentuates his awesome body, or even those cool converse sneakers he’s wearing.
Underneath all of that gorgeousness, your man is actually just a chest-beating, club-swinging, grunting caveman.
Now while you might not be too keen on the idea of being clubbed in the head by your boyfriend-to-be, the fact that he has an inner caveman actually works to your advantage. That is if you can duck the swinging clubs. Just kidding, nobody has those anymore.
Igniting your future boyfriends inner caveman is crucial because after all of the distance and iciness he might be getting a little worried. Which is perfect! He should be worried. But now we want to step it up a notch. Get him really thinking about you.
Part A in this step is to dress a little more provocatively than normal. Choose your favorite asset, and play it up. If you have legs like Heidi Klum, wear some short shorts or a mini skirt. If your upper half puts Kim Kardashian to shame, then flaunt it baby.
As usual, there is a balance. We don’t want you looking like a h*oker. But we do want him to notice your charms. The more he thinks about the fact that you’re a girl with girly bits (rather than just his coke-swillin’ mate) the better.
Part B involves getting your flirt on. If you hang out in a group often, flirt and muck around with other guys in the group. Remind him that even if he doesn’t think of you as girlfriend material, there are other guys out there that do.
All going well, your man will not take this new behavior willingly. He’ll be grumpy, moody and maybe even a little irritated with you. If so, perfect. You’re on the right track.
It’s when he smiles and says ‘It’s great that you’re putting yourself out there, I knew you’d find someone!’ that you’re in trouble.
But if your perfect man has turned into perfectly moody, then excellent. You can steeple your hands together and chuckle like Mr. Burns. Excellent, Smithers.

#6 What’s your move?

Have you seen Crazy, Stupid, Love? Best movie ever, right? And I’m not just talking about Ryan Gosling’s drool-worthy abs. Sorry, Gos, I know you’re not into the whole sex God thing, but face the facts: you’re scrumptious.
Anywaaay, if you’ve seen the movie you might remember the scene where Emma Stone is standing in front of a shirtless Ryan Gosling and she asks him ‘What’s your move?’ What she’s trying to find out is how he normally seduces girls after he gets them home. What’s his move.
Well, while you’re not Ryan Gosling (more’s the pity), you still need a move. You’ve reached the end of your friend to boyfriend voyage and it’s time to seal the deal. Wrap the parcel. Deliver the goods.
And the final spark to ignite your happily ever after flame is all up to you.
If you’re the confident, I-take-what-I-want type of girl, why not be a little forward? Grab him and kiss the life out of him. Either way, something is bound to happen.
If you’re a little less assertive, you can talk to him about how you feel. Tell him you’d like to take things to the next level.
And whichever type of move you make, remember now is definitely the time to do it. Throw caution to the wind and explore your feelings for each other. Because you can only turn a friend into a boyfriend if you take a bit of risk.