5 ways to maintain intimacy with your spouse

culled from:pulse.ng

As time passes in every marriage, intimacy tends to disappear and if care is not taken, it may never come back.

So how can you maintain intimacy with your spouse in your marriage, especially after many years together?

This article written by Jamiatul Ulama, gives five ways to ensure that the sparks continue to fly in your marriage, no matter how long you've been married.

1. Kiss: There are many ways to kiss your spouse, and no reason not to do so. It is a wonderful expression of affection and attraction. So kiss as often as you like and in ways that are mutually enjoyable. Don’t neglect kissing as unimportant.
2. Look, speak, and touch each other gently: A kind expression; whispered words that express appreciation, compliments, or desire; and a gentle touch on the arm or shoulders are their own aphrodisiacs.
3. Recognize your spouse’s sexual zones: As spouses grow more and more familiar during intimacy, certain patterns will emerge over time. Although some people fear that patterns are the path to boredom, the reality is that remembering and reinforcing those things that please our spouses enhances the intimate relationship and the marriage overall. Scientific research suggests that men reach their sexual peak in their late teens or early twenties, whereas women reach theirs a decade or more later. Often when a woman is in her thirties and forties her desire for intimacy may surge.
4. Understand, accept and appreciate natural sexual development: As a man ages, his patience, self-control, and emotional maturity increases. Through each stage, couples grow and learn more about each other and become more patient and sensitive to each other’s needs. This is wonderful because it allows a couple’s intimate life to balance out.
5. Comfort each other: After intimate contact, couples need to take time to savour the closeness they feel in that moment. After intimacy, hold each other and talk to each other. Feel relaxed in each other’s arms and express feelings of love, dreams, goals or even concerns. The natural closeness of this time should be cherished.