8 ways to have effective and productive communication with your husband

culled from:pulse.ng

Communication people say is 'key'. But it all depends on the kind of communication a couple will have, is it a bad or a good one?

Not all communication can be termed effective and productive especially when couples are not willing to listen to each other or are talking at the same time trying to drown the other's voice.

In a spur of the moment, saying hurtful or spiteful words to your husband could trigger a lot of unwanted events which could lead to regret because you can't unsay those words.

According to experts, communication with your husband, should always come from a place of love.  Sometimes this is easier said than done; but it’s always possible because it’s a choice you make.

Mairo Akpose-Simpson of Black Love Forum lists 8 ways wives can have better communication with their husbands.

1. Talk to your husband daily.  Make the time to just talk about nothing.  You know how we used to do it when we were kids on the phone in the wee hours of the nite.
2. Be honest about the things that are bothering you.  If he doesn’t know, he can’t work on it or help you through it.
3. Communicate the good things your husband does for your marriage and family AND let him know how much you love and appreciate him for being a good husband, father and provider. Hopefully, this will help him be more open to hearing the not so go stuff when you need to talk about it.
4. Always be mindful of your words and your tone. Usually it’s not what you say, but how you say it.
5. Listen to understand your husband’s concerns and point of view vs listening to formulate your best defensive reply or rebuttal.
6. Don’t assume what your husband means by his words and actions.  If something doesn’t set well with you, ask him for clarification.  This will help you avoid many unnecessary arguments, silent treatments and withholding of sex (that’s a whole ‘nother topic).
7. Don’t’ tell your family and friends all of your business.
8. When you don’t know what to say OR you know what you’re going to say next is going to make things worse, shut up and pray.