Wednesday, 8 April 2015


Couple in love


culled from:pulse.ng


There are tons of soft sell magazines out there dishing out advice to men on how to treat a woman right, but most of them come up with cheesy tips that don't work.
A relationship is meant to be a give and take partnership between you and your object of affection, and not just a one-sided arrangement.
Do you want to have an amazing relationship with a woman and receive the same kind of love you're giving in return? Then check out these 10 tips from Beliefnet:
  1. Pay attention to her: Sometimes it’s the little things a man says and does that mean that most. Pay attention to what she’s doing, big and small. Usually, when a woman is switching things up, she’s trying to get your attention. Show her that you notice. Don’t be afraid to compliment that change either. It makes her feel good.
  2. Communicate with her: Communication is everything in a relationship, especially for a woman. When something’s bothering you, it’s easy to shut down, think that she should just get it or believe that the issue will resolve itself. But sometimes it takes a certain level of honesty to resolve the issue and get the relationship where it needs to be. Make sure you’re actively listening when she’s sharing something with you and that you’re respectfully communicating when you feel like the respect isn’t mutual.
  3. Respect her: A woman should always be treated with respect. Under no circumstances should arguments escalate to a point where you’re attacking and bringing her down. These acts of disrespect lack respect and can easily turn into emotional and physical abuse. No matter where an argument takes you, you should practice self-control and openly communicate what’s bothering you. Give her the same respect you'd want in the relationship. If you’re doing anything that compromises that, there’s a problem.
  4. Don’t talk to her friends: Nothing’s wrong with having mutual friends with the woman you’re with, but make sure if those friendships include people of the opposite sex, that the relationship is always respectful –and never behind that woman’s back. Even if you think it’s innocent, if you talk to her friends, not only are you seriously compromising that woman’s friendship, you’re compromising a level of trust you may never be able to regain.
  5. Keep the spark alive: Don’t cut off the affection. Just because you’ve been together for awhile doesn’t mean the relationship romance should fizzle out—when it does, it can make a woman feel insecure about the relationship. If you feel like the spark is dwindling or simply want to keep the spark alive, do some of the things that made you happy when you first got together. Nothing’s wrong with regular ‘first date nights’ and making her feel special all over again.
  6. Remember important dates: Even if she doesn’t say it, a woman loves when her man remembers the important dates: birthdays, anniversaries and milestones in the relationship. And don’t think she doesn’t notice when you don’t. Not only will it impress her when you remember them, it will show her that you care.
  7. Compliment her: Sometimes, a woman just wants to feel like she’s beautiful, and sometimes the best way to do this is with a compliment. If she’s having a rough day or if you haven’t said it in awhile, tell her how great she looks, or how she’ll succeed in whatever stresses she’ll face today. That compliment shows that you’re paying attention to what she’s going through and could be the boost that turns her day from dark to bright.
  8. Give her little gifts: Make her feel special by giving her little gifts that let her know you’re thinking about her. This can be anything from a box of her favorite chocolates to a note that simply says ‘I love you.’ The occasion doesn’t always have to be special to show how much you care. Brownie points for the men who know this.
  9. Tell her you love her: Sometimes, a woman just wants to hear that she’s loved. Just because you think or know she knows you love her, when you don’t say it, she thinks about it. If you used to say it and now you don’t, it confuses her. If you love her, tell her you do and not just on special occasions.
  10. Be honest with her: Even if you think being honest will cause conflict, you’re hurting the relationship more when you’re not honest with her. When you spot something going on in the relationship that you know is or may potentially be problematic, address it. If you’re not feeling the relationship anymore, tell her. A woman wants and deserves to know how you feel concerning her. Even if it doesn’t seem like it in the moment, she will always respect you when you do.

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