How to be a better listener in your relationship

culled from:pulse.ng

The major problem every couple encounters is miscommunication. This happens when you cannot express yourself in a way that your partner can understand. Here are some tips for you.

Hear what they are saying. Before you can listen, you have to be aware that your partner is talking to you. If you are busy and you hear them talking to you, stop what you are doing and talk to them. If you can’t do that, tell them that you will be with them shortly. Miscommunication happens when a person is too wrapped up in what they are doing and then fail to realize that their partner is talking to them. Also make a note of what they are saying.

Apologize fast. If you did not hear your partner the first time, apologize and try to correct the situation. Try not to let it happen again, because an apology will not work on the same situation a second time around.

Understand what your partner is talking about. It is not just about knowing what language you and your partner speak. You need to think hard about what they are saying. You have to know how it affects you. You also need to know how you can help them if they are talking about a problem.

Do not interrupt. Interrupting someone when they talk makes it harder for you to remember what it is that person is saying. It is also rude. Your partner may resent you for it. If you have something to say about the matter, wait until they pause or stop talking. Always wait for them to ask for your opinion and help.

Always give acknowledgement. Do not just stare blankly at your partner while they are talking. Always acknowledge them with enthusiastic nods or by saying words like “Yes”, “Uh-huh”, “I see” or anything that is appropriate for the conversation. It might seem like such a small detail, but they will appreciate you for showing that you are indeed listening to them.

Keep your temper in check. No matter what your partner says, always think first before you react. If they are being aggressive and can’t handle their temper, do not ride the same waves they are. Be calm and keep a level head so you can solve whatever problem it is that you are dealing with.