Conversation Etiquette

 

Pause

Before you open your mouth to speak, stop and think about what you are going to say. Too many people speak as they think, and when the words come out, they don’t convey the intended meaning. Pause a moment to allow your internal filters to take over. This may make the difference between being considered a good conversationalist and others thinking you are boorish.

Pay Attention to Signals

As you chat with others, pay close attention to signals that you are losing them in conversation. If you continue talking long after they have mentally zoned out, you may find yourself alone, or worse, not invited to the next get-together. The instant you realize you’ve said too much, take a breath and give someone else a chance to talk.
Signs the other person is no loner engaged in the conversation:

• She yawns.
• She stops making eye contact.
• She glances around the room looking for an escape.
• She starts backing away.
• She stops responding.

Listen to Others

One of the best ways to have people thinking you are good at conversation is to listen to what they have to say. This shows your interest in them, and they are more likely to show interest in you when you speak. Give the other person your undivided attention.

How to show you are listening:

• Maintain eye contact.
• Nod or interject an occasional, “Yes, I agree,” or “I know what you mean.”

source:about.com