9 types of 'flexible sex' you can have with your spouse

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To keep the spark alive in your marriage, having a wonderful sex life is an essential part of it.

Couples should open their minds to a variety of sexual encounters to keep their relationships sizzling.

Tina B. Tessina from SheKnows, suggests a menu of different types of sex which she terms 'flexible', to keep make marriage nothing sort of exciting.

1. Quickies: Brief sexual encounters that are great fun when you're pressed for time. Morning heavy petting can make the whole day more exciting.
2. Sneaky sex: Whispery sex behind locked doors while the children are watching TV is great fun, or sneak lovemaking in your childhood bedroom while visiting your parents.
3. Romantic sex: Pull out all the stops: candlelight, dinner, dancing, dressing up, perhaps a lovely hotel room or a romantic dinner for two at home. It's great for celebrations, or anytime you need a boost.
4. Newlywed sex: Recreate your first married days: the time you met your husband at the door wearing only a negligee or whispered wild things in his ear.
5. Make-up sex: After an argument or a struggle, sex can be extra loving and memorable.
6. Comforting sex: When one of you is sad or stressed, the other can be especially tender and soothing.
7. Relaxing sex: Laze around, have breakfast in bed, and make love for as long as you want; no pressure, no hurry and no demands on each other.
8. Reassuring sex: Tender affection reassures a partner who is temporarily insecure, and reaffirms your mutual love and commitment. Declare your love and remember how important it is.
9. Fantasy sex: Act out all the silly, forbidden or exciting fantasies you have: Nurse and patient (or doctor), children "playing house," famous movie star and adoring fan or your two favorite characters from a soap opera, novel or movie. If you feel a little silly, laughter will only make it more fun.

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7 steps to conquer premature ejaculation without drugs

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Many men have at one time or the other been left hanging by their penises.

After they've managed to get their lover aroused and primed for a steamy hot session of bedroom exercise, the main man goes limp after spilling juice.

Sometimes, the erection is hardly up before the sperm is spilled, getting off just seconds after getting intimate.

When premature ejaculation (PE) happens, it can kill a man's ego, pride and sexual appetite, so much that the idea of having sex brings trepidation.

Good news is, you can fight and conquer this problem with the ‘Stop-and-Start’ technique that has worked for many.

The ‘Stop-and-Start’ style is a common behavioral, non-drug therapy which only requires you to identify your "mid-level excitement" during sex and steer it.

1.       Get off before you get in. Sometimes, men suffer PE because they've not been aroused for a long while. Men who have not had sex in a while and have not masturbated in a long while can find it hard to keep the excitement down when they get some action. So they spill easy. If you are one of them, get a hand-job (or oral), from yourself or your partner, and ejaculate before penetrating the vagina. It works. It’s like reducing the sperm overload load.

2.       Get in and pause. When you finally penetrate, watch out as your sexual excitement builds up. When you notice you’re losing it, stop thrusting and pause. It will stop the ejaculation from happening.

3.       Get out if you can. The moistness of the vagina, especially when you’re not using a condom, can keep you very excited and cause you to go off. So, if you can, get the penis out of the honeypot… briefly.

4.       Give her body some love. While you are out of her vagina or paused, give her body some loving. This will keep her pleasured and not turn the experience into a boring episode. You might consider giving her oral sex or using your hands to explore her body.

5.       Get back into the game. When you notice that you have taken control of your body, penetrate again and repeat steps 1-5 over and over again until you have no choice but to let go.

6.       Get your mind cleaned up. Sometimes, the reason you’re suffering from PE is that you are worrying too much. Performance anxiety and stress can cause you to have erectile dysfunction.

7.       Get healthy. One other thing you could do is to lay off bad lifestyle choices like alcohol, drugs and smoking. All three have dire consequences on your sexual performance.

Wha’anda also advices that you talk about your PE problems with your partner… and, if the tips above don’t help you, consult your doctor.

You might have a real problem on your hands.

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3 ways to make her love you more by simply kissing

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Kisses are very intimate, and, save for a few people, most women love to be kissed.

A kiss in a relationship should be like water in a marshland — plenty!

You may not realize it, but many women unlock their honeypots only after you have proven that you can do it with your lip action.

In fact, the first sexual move after holding hands is kissing, after which you either get let or get locked out…forever.

DO YOU KNOW: The male saliva has trace amounts of testosterone which is an aphrodisiac, meaning that deep kisses can boost your chances of getting in?

Anyway, here are three ways which every man can use kisses to get more loving from his woman. They’re simple but effective:

1.       Get close and Kiss-on her happy moments. Every woman suffers mood swings that can affect your relationship. As a man, make the best of the times when she gets into her happy moods. Catch her in her happy moments with gentle, harmless kisses which may or may not lead to sex. She will however be more open to further intimacy if you catch those moments by going lip-to-lip. Believe it, random, passing kisses can birth naked intimacy.

2.       Get concerned and Kiss-off her sad moments. The sad mood is one moment you don’t want to get a woman angry. She may become grumpy and cold, but at that moment, you can score by not reacting to her cold shoulder with a frown. Get into her cocoon with soft, probing kisses and maturely insist when she shoves you off. Those kisses will be a kind of support. You have to realise that women are more vulnerable at their down moments and kissing her out of her sadness pit will put you in her good books and as well lift her spirits.

3.       Get mature and Kiss-up to make up. When quarrels come, a kiss is a good ice breaker. Rather than keep scores and let the quarrel become a way, nip it in the bud and catch her with an ‘I am sorry kiss’ that says ‘I miss/love you’. She will resist, but you will insist and it will all turn rosy again. Trust Wha’anda, this will most likely lead to make-up sex. Who doesn't like make up sex?

Always remember the basic rules of kissing; it is always better to start slow and gentle and make sure you’re not chewing off her lips or flooding her face with your saliva.

Also make sure you have clean breath and clean mouth….no garlic and cigar breathe allowed please.

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7 tips to execute a steamy quickie and keep the romance HOT!

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Many relationships are wobbling because they partners are sex starved.

The sad thing is that, in many cases, neither of the two lovers actually deliberately cancelled sex out.

It is simply a case of not getting the perfect time to initiate the proper sex… so they plan for tomorrow and tomorrow gives no chance so another tomorrow is selected until it becomes a routine and sex is history.

With time, they begin to snap at each other… and cheat.

Now, instead of waiting for the perfect timing, why not execute a quickie, which is an excellent way of connecting with your lover.

Set fire to your time-starved sex life and reignite the passion you once shared with your lover with these tips:

1. Let your partner anticipate. If you have a quickie planned, you can make it even hotter by building anticipation! Stack up the levels of arousal throughout the day with ‘dirty’/romantic SMSs, emails or voice notes. He or she will definitely be anticipating fireworks with the tension build-up.

2. Let the location inspire you. You must prime your quickie so well that it happens in a location that will add to the excitement. You could set it up in odd places in the home like the study, kitchen, bathroom, hotel convenience, a pool shower, inside your car or in the garden of your (or neighbors) house.

3. Lubricant will come in handy. When you are having a quickie where there will be no time for enough foreplay that will make the woman’s vaginal wall to expand and self-lubricate, then you need a lube. You would do well to have a water-based or silicone-based lubricant handy, like in your car’s glove box, side of the sofa, kitchen drawer or purse. Lubricants also boost the female arousal process and makes penetration much easier.

4. Let your outfit complement. When you plan to have a quickie, dress the part. Wear something that comes on and off easily. Short, splayed skirts, long slits, long zippers, armless dresses and the like, that will allow quick access is what the woman needs. Men would find it easier with loose pants than tight jean. You don’t want to use half the time to undress and dress back.

5. Location and sex position come together. An adventurous position would boost the excitement. In the car, the cowgirl position would be nice while standing positions would suit kitchen, bathroom and other roomy locations where a bed is not available.

6. Let yourself go. Don’t be shy when it comes to quickies. It will end very soon so enjoy it and let yourself go far. Explore your bodies with reckless abandon.

7. Leave no mess. It would be wise to have tissue/wipes and perfume around so you don’t carry the sex scent around when you are done. Clean up and spray some nice fragrance.

Wha’anda’s advice is to never wait for the perfect moment to have sex because it sometimes would never come.

Spontaneous, un-orchestrated intense sex session without setting the mood or pre-planning position is raw and pure.

It will leave a lasting impression on you both.

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5 Exercises for Better Sex

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Most people might not realise this, but sex is a form of workout, in fact, it is a sport, and just like any other sport, there are exercises that improve your flexibility, strengthen the muscles you need to master any position, thereby you do your possible best, below are five of them.

You are to perform 10 reps of each move below from Sadie Kurzban, certified fitness instructor and founder of the dance cardio technique Fitness, then repeat the entire circuit up to three times in order to really prep your body for your favorite workout, sex.

1. Hip Swivel: Start in a wide stance with soft knees. Keeping your elbows near your sides, bend your arms and bring your hands out to the sides. To start, come up on to your right toes as you turn your hips toward the right and pop your butt out to the left. From this position, drop your right heel and come up onto your left toes as you engage your core and trace a half circle behind you. End with your butt popped out to the right and your hips turned toward the left. Trace the half circle back to start. This tightens your core, loosens up your hips and butt, and improves your rhythm.
2. Squat With Alternating Knee Dip: Stand with your feet slightly wider than shoulders-width apart and your toes turned outward. Extend your arms straight out in front of you. Drop your butt straight down until your thighs are parallel to the floor. From this position, press into your right heel as you simultaneously lift your left heel and come up to stand. On your way up, turn your left knee in and left heel out, and drive your left elbow straight behind you. Place your left heel back on the floor and drive your left hand forward as you lower back down to a wide squat with your toes facing outward. It loosens up your hips, strengthens your legs, abs, and obliques, and improves your rhythm if you sync to the beat.
3. Drop It Low: Stand up straight with your heels together and your toes pointing outward. Clasp your hands in front of your body with your palms facing down. Keeping your shoulders stacked over your hips, let your heels come up off the floor and your knees come out to the sides as you lower your butt straight down toward the ground. Bring both hands straight up and overhead. Engage your core and press up through the soles of your feet as you drop your hands and come back up to starting position. This opens your hips, strengthens your thighs, butt, and core, and improves your balance.
4. The Bird: Squat with your legs together, your chest high, your arms bent, and your hands together. Staying low, open your left knee to the side and take a small step toward the left. As you step, turn your chest toward the left and open your arms, so your right arm shoots straight forward and your left arm shoots straight behind you. Step back to starting position and bring your arms back to center, then repeat on the opposite side, this time stepping to your right and driving your right arm backward and left arm forward. It tones the quads, glutes, calves, and upper back, and improves your flexibility for straddling and other woman-on-top positions.
5. Triceps Dip With Hip Raise: Sit on the ground with your palms on the floor behind your hips and your fingers facing your body. Your elbows should be slightly bent. Bend your knees and place the soles of both feet on the ground in front of your hips. Without actively lifting your hips, press into your heels and engage your triceps as you straighten both arms to lift your body up off the floor. From this position, engage your butt and hamstrings to drive your hips straight up into a tabletop position. Pause, then lower your hips. Next, bend your elbows to bring your butt back to the floor. This boosts arm and leg strength for more powerful thrusting.

Unfortunately, these exercises are for women, so ladies endeavour to try these and see the improvements and compliments you will get.

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The benefits of having sex everyday

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Most married people suffer from various ailments because they refuse to enjoy their spouse sexually. Regular sex has many benefits, as you will learn today.

Yvonne K. Fulbright says “Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” So Oga and Madam stop cheating yourself. Sex is not a negotiation tool in marriage. Have sex with your spouse and be healthy.

Benefit Number 1: Improves bladder control for madam- Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.

Benefit Number 2: Lowers Your Blood Pressure- Researchers have proven that sexual intercourse specifically lowered systolic blood pressure.

Benefit Number 3: Boosts Your Libido- For men, having sex regularly with your spouse will give you more vitality and help you last long in bed. For women, having sex ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity, she says, all of which make sex feel better and help you crave more of it.

Benefit Number 4: Boosts your immune system- Couples who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers have discovered that couples who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody that protects the body.

Benefit Number 5: Sex is Exercise- Sex reduces calories. Also experts say it encourages healthy heartbeats and blood circulation. It also stretches your muscles.

Benefit Number 6: Reduces the risk of prostate Cancer- A recent study shows that men who ejaculated frequently, were less likely to get prostate cancer.

Benefit Number 7:  Lowers Heart Attack Risk- Having sex more often may help. During one study, men who had sex at least twice a week were half as likely to die of heart disease as men who had sex rarely.

Benefit Number 8:  Eases stress and Improves Sleep- After sex, all your body muscles relax and your system goes into relax mode. You can easily nod off.

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6 ways many men are unknowingly killing their sperm

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More and more men are finding it hard to produce these days.

It is not that they are not sweating enough, or that they are "unhealthy", but something is wrong.

Though other factors contribute, damaged sperm is a major reason for many a couple's infertility issues.

In many cases, the man's weapon may be the reason for losing the childbearing war...

Researchers have shown that a man’s lifestyle can affect the quality and quantity of his sperm, hence fertility issues.

Anyway, here are some ways men unwittingly cause the damage:

1. Always carrying a phone in the front pocket. Studies have shown that there is the radiation a mobile phone emits so close to the scrotal area causes as much a 9% drop in live sperm per semen sample. So it better to hold the phone or carry it in a case or, at worse, the back pocket.
2. Leaving stress unattended to. A man who is always stressed, maybe due to overworking, is inadvertently killing his swimmers.  Every body function, including sperm production, is affected by stress. Researchers found out that men with anxiety issues tend to have abnormally shaped sperm and sperm with mobility issues. Now, an immobile sperm is useless because they have to swim far to marry an egg fr conception.
3. Drinking too much. Alcohol is a big enemy of sperm. In fact, the British Medical Journal suggests that having as little as five drinks (alcohol) weekly can 'adversely affect' to semen quality.
4. Smoking too much. Blowing the smoke always has a negative impact on sperm quality. However, a researcher says, once a man quits, his system immediately starts generating healthier sperm.
5. Piling up extra weight. Being fit has a lot of advantages. Being fat lowers sperm production and can cause erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotence? Losing just a little amount of weight can help.
6. Staying too much in hot areas. Being exposed to too much heat regularly has dire consequences for a man's sperm. A welder for example might be at risk. A man's genital region needs to be cooler than the other parts of the body, not hotter.

If you have hopes of getting a child in the future, now might be a time to be conscious of your lifestyle, instead of worrying later.

Alcohol, fat, smoking, stress and all the other factors must be monitored.

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8 ways many people are killing their sex life unknowingly

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Sexual underperformance and dissatisfaction is something many people have to deal with daily.

Many people approach sex and fail woefully; many men either suffer weak erection or quick ejaculation while some women just can’t come.

1. You're not sleeping enough. It is good to be ambitious and pursue a career with passion. However, the hours you spend sitting at your computer working away can damage your sex life. A research shows that each extra hour of sleep corresponded to higher levels of sexual desire. So get enough hours of sleep.
2. You're using anti-depressants. Antidepressants do damage to the pleasure region of the brain and make it extremely hard for both men and women to climax. Sometimes, it is even impossible to climax. So you might need to get a different treatment for your depression.
3. You are stressed. Working too hard and worrying too much will leave you stressed. This stress in turn makes sex a chore with the prospect of an orgasm almost not there. You will need to empty your mind and unwind for you to enjoy sex and orgasm.
4. You are not drinking enough water. This may sound strange, but not drinking enough water is not good for your sex life. It is even worse to take too much alcohol. Water and other hydrating fluids help orgasms, because our bodies need water to work properly.
5. You sit too much. Too much time in a chair can shorten the muscles of the pelvic floor (for women) and the resulting tightness of these muscles can stand in the way of climaxing. So get active do stretches once in a while.
6. You are too self-conscious. Focusing on personal flaws or skills and technique in bed is sometimes the reason many people cannot orgasm. Many men worry about their small penises or stamina or skills while some women worry about how they smell, look, their breasts, body shape and other things they see as flaws. With all these in mind, an orgasm is almost impossible.
7. You don’t know your body. Some people also have problems with getting an orgasm and generally enjoying sex because they have not found out what makes them tick in bed. Find out what you like and make sure your partner does those things when you get in bed.
8. You don’t speak during sex. If you have found out what you like about sex, why not ask for it? Some people, mostly women, take sex as it comes and never make requests as to how they want it to go. What happens then is that they do not really enjoy it, being just passive partners. So talk about sex even as you have sex.

It’s time to make sex a pleasurable experience, rather than an obligation to your partner.

Trust Wha’anda, if you get these things sorted out, you’ll find out new pleasures in making love with your partner.

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7 DON'Ts you must not ignore in new relationships

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You get hopeful, plan not to make the mistakes that you made in the past and enjoy and do what you think will make it work this time around.

It’s the same with love and new relationships, one phase is cleared away as fresh emotions, feelings and desires take over.

You must realise that a good start is very important for the destination of your new relationship — you don’t want to create a wrong impression or even chase away the catch.

So, here are 7 DON'Ts you should observe when you find love anew:

1. Don’t lose your head. The fact that you fell out of one relationship doesn’t mean you are so worthless that the next person that comes calling becomes your god. So you should avoid texting/calling every second, visiting every minute or just giving excessive attention. It reeks of desperation and you may be choking your new found love.
2. Don’t pretend. Some people also try to become what they are not when they meet someone new. The idea is that they want to be the ‘good/ideal’ man/woman so as to be loved. Unfortunately, the real ‘you’ always comes through at some point. If it does, you are most certain to love your love because the new characteristics won’t fit in.
3. Don’t compare your new lover to previous ones. Even identical twins have different thoughts and traits so don’t judge your lover based on your ex and don’t expect to get the same things you used to get. In fact, erase your ex and try as much as possible not to talk about what you did and did not do in your past romances. For your own sake, don’t ask too much questions about his/her past lovers. What will you gain?
4. Don’t rush, take it slow and steady. There’s time to love and know each other, so don’t try to move the relationship too fast. Don’t start forcing wedding talks, children talk, moving in together talks when you’re yet to know each other. Also give some time for former lovers to be properly ejected. You should not expect a total clean-up in one day of your romance. You need to allow for time for you both to explore and understand each other.
5. Don’t put yourself in the spotlight. Love is about ‘us’ not ‘me’ so try to not make yourself the centre of it all. You should not be the chatterbox that has a lot to say about himself/herself and doesn’t give room to the other’s talk. It’s not about you alone; it’s about both of you. So listen and show interest in his/her activities, dreams etc. and make it a collective romance.
6. Don’t be a CIA agent. Some people want to know everything about their new lover in one day, so they snoop around — read private documents, read SMSs, ask personal questions from friends and colleagues, stalk on social media. Some will also ask questions every minute like it’s a Gestapo interview. Wrong! Learn about him/her in bits — by spending time together and talking, and don’t go snoopy about it.
7. Don’t look for perfection. If you think a new relationship will offer you a flawless angel, look again. Expect the new person to have his/her flaws which you must put up with, after all you have yours. Sometimes, focusing on the defect of your new love may kill your zeal. Instead, glorify the positives about him/her and watch your admiration grow.

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9 tips to give your woman multiple orgasms through her breasts

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Ultimately, sex must lead to some form of sexual release to be of any use.

The chemical reaction that follows a fruitful physical connection of sex organs often times leads to an orgasm, so fulfilling that your body is temporarily functioning on its own, weightless, euphoric and ecstatic.

It is a no-brainer that women find it more difficult to orgasm than their male counterparts, so you have to work harder to make sure that you bring her to that fountain of emotional release — otherwise, why have sex?

Anyway, though there are other ways to make a woman cum, her breasts, filled with hyper-sensitive nerve endings, are gateways.

Good thing is women love to have their breast played with and most men love touching breasts…

So here are 9 tips to help you make her breast the key to her orgasms:

1. Touching the breasts sexually should be a soft and gentle affair. No grabbing or squeezing at the beginning. Gather the breasts and move your hands over the nipples and then pinch softly with your fore-finger and thumb until you notice them getting firm, erect.
2. The tip of the average finger is very gentle and can do some magic on equally gentle skin like the breasts. Just one finger, roaming about on her breasts can do more than you imagine. Place your index finger on her nipples and draw circular movements down until you reach the base of her nipples. Do this for both breasts continuously.
3. . Remember that it is not only the nipples that are active. Introduce your tongue, mouth and hands on all areas of the breast and caress, lick, suck, pinch, nibble and even lovingly bite them.
4. At intervals, gather both breasts and give a firm but loving squeeze. Alternate between that and rubbing/licking/kissing the nipples or kissing.
5. Cup the boobs and suck, together or one at a time, depending on how large they are. But however you do it, suck it like you mean it.  As you suck, make circular motions with your tongue
6. Kisses also add a nice twist to it. So, starting with a soft kiss on the lips, move your tongue into her mouth and suck on her tongue. Soft, unhurried lip contact is one of the most intimate shared-experiences.
7. If you have access to ice, give her the hot-cold feeling. How? Roll the ice cube on her nipple (breasts) until they are numb, then suck until they are warm, flushed and erect again.
8. Put one nipple in your mouth and press it softly between your tongue and your palate and then suck it softly. If she’s up for it, you can also BITE, but VERY gently.
9. Be observant. Make sure you notice what she likes the most, the sucking, the pinching or the caressing. You should know this by her response to each touch. You can also ask her if she likes it done in a particular way.

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8 erotic things to do with your breasts during sex

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Every part of your body need to be fully involved during sex if you are really interested in having a mind-blowing session between the sheets.

Not many people know this, but breasts are the most sensual feature that women posses, but sadly enough, they are hardly used to their full potentials during sex.

This is because men are too busy concentrating on other parts to give the boobs the attention they truly deserve. Here are eight ways to spice things up in the bedroom with your 'girls'.

1. Hide-and-seek: Leave your bra on during girl-on-top sex. In an intense moment, sexily pull down your straps to expose some cleavage. Don't worry, he'll do the rest.
2. Go icy: Tell your partner to take a few ice cubes in his mouth and then suck them on your breasts. The contrasting temperature of his hot tongue and the cold ice will give send a shiver down your spine. And guess what, the ice won't be the reason for that sensation.
3. Giddy up: While on the cowgirl position, fondle your breasts sensually. Watching you please yourself is going to be a pleasurable experience for him as well.
4. Sexy massage: Forget the blow job and hand job, and instead, treat him to a 'breast job'. Massaging his penis with your breast is extremely sensual for both you and him.
5. Go kinky: Handcuffs and whips? Forget them and go hardcore with nipple clamps. These kinky sex toys are super erotic. They also make your nips super sensitive and even the slightest touch can make it feel intense. So go ahead, unleash the passion!
6. Honey treat: Drip some honey over your breast all the way down to your navel. Blindfold him and ask him to find the sweet treat using his tongue. This is surely going to lead to an explosive love making session afterwards.
7. Spice it up: Rub some cinnamon leaf oil on your nipples before getting into action. He will be pleasantly surprised when he discovers it in the middle of the deed. Spicy!
8. Sweet nothings: Dessert is always a good idea and during sex, it's a mind blowing idea, right? Put a dollop of whipped cream on one of your girls and some chocolate sauce on the other. You don't need to tell your man what to do next

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6 tips to cure your lovers anxiety, insomnia with Oral sex!!!

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Many people are living with stressed lovers who find sleep elusive.

When this stress culminates into insomnia and grumpiness, the first solution they seek is in pills.

Pills may well be the solution, especially if prescribed by a qualified doctor, not just bought off the shelf.

But, do you know that sex, well executed, gentle sex, could just be what your partner needs to release the nerves and sleep like a baby with no care in the world?

1. One of the main benefits of sex is that it helps you sleep. When you engage in sex, you loosen your body which releases a hormone called prolactin. Prolactin keeps you relaxed and induces sleepiness.
2. Most times, insomnia is caused by anxiety and ease stress. Now, sex also helps ease these two because your body releases the ‘feel-good hormone’ that boosts your brain’s pleasure and reward system. During sex — not just penile sex, your releases this hormone which eases the stress and anxiety.

So, after a bad/busy day at work, your stressed partner can be given the ultimate released his/her body needs with some gentle, well executed sex.

You may be too tired for the regular, physical romp, so opt for a post shower oral session, in the bathroom or in bed.

How?

1. Soft kisses open doors. Just after your shower, get up close and personal and place some soft kisses on your lover’s sensitive parts, starting with soft kiss from the outer lips to the inner lips. Do that for a while and move on when he/she seems relaxed.
2. Target the Vagina/Penis.  Trust Wha’anda, the pleasure of tonguing your partner’s penis or vagina is rewarding for both partners.  The tongue is naturally lubricated and flexible, so if you apply it to the equally sensitive genitalia, to create a magical, explosive feeling. Focus more on the tip of the penis and the vagina’s labia. Be explorative.
3. Let your tongue roam. This is not a move for sex, so be playful. Your focus is to get them stimulated enough to have an orgasm, so let your tongue roam from genital to nipple to lips to navel to neck and back.
4. Cuddle. After you’ve gotten him or her to explode, do the most intimate thing ever… cuddle. Cuddling makes your partner feel safe and love, taking away whatever is making them anxious.

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10 intimate spots to kiss a woman to orgasm

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Kisses are sweet.

One of the most intimate shared-experiences you could have is kissing, especially soft, unhurried lip contact.

Sexual or not, kisses leave an unbeatable tinge of pleasure.

If you have not been kissing, you’re missing out and you’re cheating your woman out of a whole world of pleasure, keeping further away from orgasm.

So you should really consider touching these 11 spots when next you’re in bed:

1. Lips. Starting with a soft kiss on the lips, move your tongue into her mouth and suck on her tongue. No rush. It all has to be soft and gentle … don’t fill her mouth with spittle.
2. Neck. The nape is a good place to place a soft wet kiss, anytime, any day. The lightest contact on that sensitive region is enough. Do it with calculated pacing and you’ll blow her off.
3. Collarbone. The spot where the neck meets chest and shoulder is a good place to place a kiss.
4. Breasts and nipples. Boobs and lips were made to be together forever. The areola, the nipples and the breasts themselves love to be teased. Lick and kiss alternatively for maximum effect.
5. Lower breast to navel. Drive her crazy with staccato of kisses from beneath her breasts to her navel region. Explosive!
6. Ears. The ears are sensitive to wet touch, especially from tongue and lips. Kiss and whisper at the same time.
7. Spine. The spine is very sensitive; placing kisses from the top down to the small of her back will leave her arching, primed.
8. Ribs and sides: A soft, dragging lick from your lips and tongue around the ribs can be tickly and sweet. It feels great, especially if your lips are sufficiently wet.
9. Inner thighs. The skip around the thigh is very is very sensitive. A kiss there, even though clothing does much.
10. Vagina: The vagina is extremely sensitive; it will react sweetly to a touch from your tongue and lips.

Being a good kisser is a plus for any man. The ultimate rule is that you should not be slurpy, don’t leave saliva all over her face or body.

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Why some women experience pain during sex

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Today on SexVille Tuesday, we have a Sex and Relationship expert, Dr Juliet Moses who writes on the causes of pain and discomfort during sex for some women and what they need to do to stop the pain.

Enjoy Dr Moses.

A lot of women that I have had the privilege of treating and counseling have gone through pains and serious discomfort during sex that many of them wonder if they would ever be able to enjoy sex with their husbands and partners.

In my years of research and continuous study on the causes of pain during sex, I have come to realise that such pains are traceable to a lot of factors and they include:

1. Vaginal Infection

Some women do not really know they have been infected because apart from the well known STDs, there are certain vaginal infections that a woman can contact and these could lead to painful sex.

Infections like vaginal yeast infections and trichomoniasis are often present without noticeable symptoms.

However, during sexual intercourse, the rubbing motion of the penis against the vagina and genitalia sometimes causes the symptoms of these vaginal infections to manifest. Symptoms like stinging, burning and searing pains tend to intensify. Related to these could be genital herpes that can cause serious pain during sex.

2. Vaginal Irritation

Many of the products women use to wash their private parts, contain irritants that can cause vaginal irritation, leading to discomfort or pain during vaginal sexual intercourse. Some other causes of these irritation could be as a result of the use of contraceptive foams, lubricating creams, jellies, vaginal sprays, sanitary pads, detergents, deodorant soaps, and excessive vaginal douching.

Aside these, you could also react to some types of condoms.

3. Vaginal Dryness

Vaginal dryness often causes painful sexual intercourse. Normal vaginal lubrication is a given for most women; however, the vagina may be dry at certain times, making vaginal penetration painful. Lack of vaginal lubrication can be caused by several factors including

trying to achieve vaginal penetration too fast before enough stimulation has occurred to allow normal vaginal lubrication to take place, feeling nervous or tense about the sexual experience; this can slow the release of vaginal lubrication, using a condom without the addition of a vaginal lubricant, (Saliva is an acceptable for vaginal lubrication, but never use petroleum-based products, as they can deteriorate condoms and contribute to vaginal infections.)

Hormonal imbalance during menopause, the years preceding menopause, or following childbirth, can also add to pains you experience during sex.

4. Vaginal Tightness

This occasionally happens when you feel tense, or are not fully relaxed when penetration occurs. Difficulty penetrating a tight vagina can happen even when vaginal lubrication is not a problem.

The first few times you engage in sexual intercourse, the vagina may be tight due to an unstretched hymen, which can cause pain at the time of penetration.

Sometimes a more severe condition called vaginismus is responsible for vaginal tightness; women with vaginismus experience strong, involuntary muscle spasms of the vaginal muscles during sexual intercourse or vaginal penetration by any object, including fingers and tampons.

5. Pain of the Clitoris

The clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female genitalia. Gentle touching or rubbing of the clitoris is extremely pleasurable for some women, while it is unbearably painful for others.

Clitoral pain may also occur due to poor hygiene; vaginal secretions may collect under the clitoral hood and may lead to pain if not properly washed away.

6. Pelvic Pain

Occasionally, a woman will experience pelvic pain upon deep, thrusting penetration. Many conditions may cause this pain, including tears in the ligaments that support the uterus and the known causes for this include problems during childbirth, inappropriately performed abortion, previous violent sexual intercourse or rape, cervical, uterine, or tubal infections, such as pelvic inflammatory disease (PID).

7. Vulvodynia

This is a painful, and often hard to diagnose chronic condition that causes a burning and/or stinging sensation of the vulva and vagina.

Pain and discomfort are never part of normal sexual intercourse. If you experience pain during sex, don't be afraid to tell your partner who has no way of knowing that you're uncomfortable unless you talk about what you're feeling.

Also make sure to see your doctor for diagnosis and treatment of the underlying cause.

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Why porn might actually be good for you

 


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The average man in the 21st century is believed to spend 40 minutes a week  watching pornography which adds up to three entire months during his lifetime.

In the past, studies have suggested such consumption is harmful, with the rise in porn viewing often linked to a decrease in desire for genuine sexual encounters.

For example, in his book The Brain That Changes Itself, the psychiatrist Norman Doidge writes that his patients who watched porn experienced “increasing difficulty in being turned on by their actual sexual partners, though they still considered them attractive.” These patients said they had to fantasise about porn scenes to get turned on.

However, a new study suggests that porn consumption by males may not have such a detrimental affect on their appetite or capacity for sex.

Scientists at the University of California asked 280 men to record their porn viewing habits while tracking their libido.

They found that there was their a positive correlation between the amount of time spent viewing porn and the desire to have sex.

Men who watched no porn were found to score just over 40 on the researcher's arousal matrix, in contrast, men who did watch porn scored over 50.

Those who watched more than two hours of porn per week were found to have the highest level of arousal. They had more desire for 'solo-sex' and sex with a partner.

"This pattern suggests that those who view more visual sexual stimuli (VSS) are likely to have a higher sexual drive," researchers Nicole Prause and James Pfaus wrote in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

"Sexual arousal responsivity may not be impaired by viewing more VSS at home, as it actually was related to stronger desire and sexual arousal in two of the three relationships tested."

The study also looked at instances of erectile dysfunction. They found that "erectile functioning with a partner was not related to the hours of VSS viewed weekly".

While the results of the study point to a definite link between porn consumption and sexual desire, they should not be taken as definitive.

The men who were asked were all in their 20s, so the results do not offer insight to a broad range of ages.

It's also arguable that men who watch pornography do so due to a higher sex drive than those who don't, so it is natural that they should have more desire for real life encounters.

Sex is beneficial to our health so, that means porn is beneficial to our health?

What do you guys think about this new claim.

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Having sex regularly increases brain power

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It is said that as you grow old, your memory begins to fail. Now scientists have come up with a great way of increasing your brain power and keeping it sharp even if you are growing old.

Do you want to keep your memory? Scientist say couples will increase their brainpower if they have sex together constantly. The result of this recent study was released to the press.

Manchester University carried out a survey on 1,700 people between the ages of 58 and 98 and they discovered that those who did not experience memory loss, were couples who had sex regularly. The study showed that the couples who were sexually active showed an high ability to remember things quickly. Apparently the saying that the brain is a very important sexual organ, now is true.

The research also found out that a large percentage of the wives above 50 still enjoyed sex. They added that they were the ones that initiated it and led the pace while their husbands were laid back. One of the subject who spoke to yourtango said that he will put his heart to it, now he has realised the health benefit of having sex.

Sex a day keeps brain power alive.

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How to make a guy very horny enough to beg for sex

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Men love conquering. They appreciate the chase. When a man gets something easily he does not see the need to value it. Infact, if it comes easily, his sense of worth and achievement is not boosted. His morale is not gingered.

Men love women that give them challenging tasks before dating them. If you are just flinging it on him anytime he wants, you are not getting it right my dear. The idea is not make him drool for it, to make him stare. Get him aroused and just give him a tender kiss, with a soft voice saying “not today baby” and he’ll be your PUPPY FOR LIFE, not  CHELSEA anymore lol!

The idea is to draw attention to your sexuality, without being cheap or appearing to be “free chops.”

1. Be serious: My dear, woju oh! This is serious business. Getting a guy to a state where he is so horny that he is begging for sex is not beans oh! Guys have a lot on their minds; the picture of the next girl he admires is stuck in his head, lots of stuff. So, don’t laugh when you are carrying out this crucial mission. That does not mean you should become serious like a Miss Rambo. Smiling more subtly is better than laughing loud when you are on this matter. In fact, it is a very long thing.

2. Play ignorant: Guys love mystery; they are gingered when they are carrying out tasks. The man was wired to crave for something he can’t easily have. So when working him up, do not make it look obvious that your intention is to make him horny. That will give you up as cheap and he might just sleep with you and you will become another plus on his score board. Baby girl, talk to him normally, let go of any tension and flow. You are a lady, my dear; this thing comes naturally installed in you. Just flow.

3. Set the mood, create the aura: For your mission "to lay egg", you have got to create an inviting and appealing environment. Get him to a quiet place and if possible, play soft music. You can seat close to him and let him feel your warmth. Pretend to fidget with your phone and ask him to help sort out the issue, while leaning gently to him. Not in a desperado way oh!

4. The voice: My dear, this is the time you wish you had a voice like the twitter bird. Let your voice damage his sense if reasoning. Use your soft, sensual tone to create pictures and play with his mind. I do not mean talk dirty. You could use indirect suggestive words though, but use a sensual tone that is natural. Please do not try to do it like the girls in the movies oh!. Guys get irritated by that.

5. Steal shy glances: Every guy loves a shy girl. That naïve aura they send out makes the guy want to go in for the kill. Here is how to use it to your advantage. Look at him in a shy way and smile. Do that in intervals thrice, and he is revving to help you "cure your craze."

6. Show off little: Use pictures to tell your story. I mean show him some cleavage subtly.

7. Share joke: Remember I said no laughing. You are not in a comedy show. But you can share subtle dirty sexual jokes and thoughts. Get him to share with you too. Talk dirty, with a kind of secondary school girl appeal. Ask him dirty intimate questions like; where do you think I like being touched? If I was a light bulb, where would you press to turn me on? He will wet his pants. I tell you.

8. Touch him: Gently pretend to clean something from his face or lips while looking into his eyes subtly. My dear you have tied him and handed the key to him. He will beg to be released from your bond.

Have a great time expressing your sexuality and power ladies

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8 Not so obvious places every woman desperately want their man to know and touch

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Guys stop rushing like a moving train without brakes when you are in the mood. Ask questions. Every woman is different. For the fact that you tried a move with Miss A does not mean it will work with Miss B. Get to know how to pleasure you woman sensually and you will have her running to you for more. It is not all about penetration.So guy,pocket your puppet and let her feel some body browsing moves that will make her ready for the-you know!

1.  Her hair:Scientists have found out that touching a woman’s hair helps her relieve stress.Running your fingers through her hair will send tingles down her spines and make her mushy.

2.  Feet massages:Women always love a good massage. Gently rub their toes, ankles and the side of their feet. You can suck their toes. Though not all of them love it.

3. Earlobes:Gently kissing her earlobes will send sweet sensations through her body.A woman’s earlobes are sensitive. One thing do not jam your tongue in her ears.

4. Belly button: Licking the belly button helps stimulate the vagina for some women.Whichever way, it is an exciting place to start on your way down.

5.  Inner thighs: Women have this mindset that men are all after getting to the vagina, fast.Just use your tongue to kiss and lick her inner thighs, while getting close to her vagina. Do not touch or venture near the vagina. That move will make her beg you for more.

6. Back of the neck: Gentle kisses planted on the back of her neck will do the magic.The nerves there are very sensitive and they react fast to tender stimulation with the tongue.

7. Palms:Trace your fingers around her palms and squeeze lovingly and see her cuddling up to you.

8. Under the knee: Funny enough, women are in agreement when it comes to this area of the body. They say it makes them horny. You can try it.

Try these moves and earn the respect of your woman.

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5 types of lingerie that will turn your man on

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According to sex experts, creativity is one of the ingredients that keeps things spicy hot in the bedroom.

You may know all the dirty tricks and stuff, but how do you pique your man's interest in sex? One of the subtle ways to do this is by wearing sexy lingeries that will pass the message across to him, nice and clear.

Check out these hot underwear you should be rocking if you want to turn your man on:

1. The sophisticated look: Does your man go crazy when he sees you dressed up in an elegant, swanky number? Lingerie doesn't always have to be super-revealing (it's all coming off eventually anyway!). Translate his preference for classy eveningwear into the bedroom by wrapping yourself up in a peignoir - a long, silky gown - plus a matching robe. Top it off with some lacy stilettos, and strut your stuff over to the bed like the class act you are.
2. The girly look: If you've got a playful, bubbly personality, and your partner loves nothing more than to bring out that side of you, then he would probably love to see you in some flirty, girly lingerie. Try on a lace baby doll – which actually does wonders for your body; it's just so flowy and forgiving. And if you wear a super-short baby doll, you can show off those sexy legs of yours - perhaps in a cute pair of peep-toe pumps!
3. The role-playing look: If you've ever role-played together - and loved every minute of it - then odds are your man would like to see you dressed up in some novelty lingerie. And please, not the kitschy kind. Instead, go for one of the tried-and-true male fantasies, like a DIY schoolgirl look (it's a winner every time). The schoolgirl look is easily accomplished by donning a way-short plaid skirt (this one isn't making it past the principal's office!), a tight white button-down tied off to show your midriff, white cotton knee-highs and a pair of Mary Jane-style heels. You'll enjoy detention more than you ever thought possible.
4. The sporty look: Does your man like seeing you in his button-down work shirt? Then he may be turned on by the sporty look. Try this on: A pair of cotton or lace boy shorts (bonus points for a kitschy phrase on the back - or his name!) and a white men's tank-top undershirt. Add knee-high athletic socks - you know, the ones with the stripes on top - and a pair of sneakers. Top it off with some pigtails and you’re bound to hit a home run tonight.
5. The vampy look: If your spouse likes things super-hot in the bedroom, indulge his erotic side by dressing up like the sexpot you are! Your best bet: Pull on a formfitting teddy or a corset-and-G-string combo (lacy or satin, it's up to you), and kick up the seduction factor with - you guessed it - some thigh-high stockings and a pair of garters that he won't be able to resist. Don't skimp on the shoes; this look requires a 4-inch heel at least. Trust us, you won't be walking in them much.

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Romance, sex during menstruation is safe… here are 9 tips to do it right

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Should couples take sex off the table when woman is menstruating?

Many people will quickly say ‘Yes’ to this question — mostly because of he expected mess and bloody business.

But in-house sex expert, Madame Felicia, in this week’s ‘SexVille Tuesday’ said sex during your menstrual period is safe and healthy.

“I can tell you that it is absolutely safe to have sex during your period, provided that you don’t use this time as a free pass to have unprotected sex,” she said.

If you have risen above the cultural and religious-backed reasons to avoid sex during menstruation, this article will teach you how to do it right.

It’s just a number of simple steps:

1. Pre-empt the odour. Menstrual fluid has an unpleasant odour. Yes. To beat this, control the air in the room. Spraying strong perfume or light scented candles to keep the air fresh.
2. Be prepared. Many times, there is a release of menstrual fluid during love-making so prepare. Use colour bed sheets, preferably thick blankets that you can wash easily or dispose of.
3. Don’t try oral. This is not a time to give oral. Don’t even try it.
4. You need plenty tissue/disposable towels. From time to time, you’ll have to clean off the menstrual discharge. Having the paper towels, disposable towels or tissue close would save you constant bathroom trips.
5. Sex in the shower is a good idea. You might use this chance to change location of your romp. Take it to the shower and have sex standing. The water washes off the ‘blood’ and keeps you both clean.
6. Use a condom. This is a time when the condom is your best friend because there is an increased risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
7. No funky sex position. Don’t try to be too creative during this period. Simple styles like the missionary position will reduce the blood flow.
8. Stay on the surface. Penetrate too deep may start a never-ending menstrual flow. So just skim the surface and do more of clitoral stimulation than deep-throttling.
9. Use your hands and mouth on non-genital areas. Now is the time to pay attention to other bloody parts like the breasts, nipples, navel, ears and other places other than the vagina.

It is important that you wash off as soon as you are done because there is nothing good about letting the bloodied-menstrual juice dry up on your bodies.

Keep your sex in tune, every time.

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