3 Rookie Mistakes Single Boomer Men Should Avoid By Ken Solin

culled from:about.com
Newly single boomer men have earned a dubious distinction. They’ve managed to develop a reputation as socially inept rookies who boomer women avoid dating. Their anachronistic dating behavior is a throwback to the 60s or 70s, the last time many were single, which doesn’t play in this millennium. Boomers currently have the highest rate of divorce of any age group, and we also have the highest rate of STDs, which is likely associated with millions of newly single, sex-starved boomer guys who are thinking with their manhood, not their heads. If you’re one of the millions of recently single boomer men listen up, because you don’t want to become a pariah in your dating community, because once you get labeled a whacko or bad news, it’s difficult to convince people otherwise.
Here are 3 dating mistakes newly single boomers should avoid making.
1. First Date Sex
The notion that an empowered boomer woman who marched against a war, demonstrated and won her equal rights, raised our kids often as single moms, had a career, and created a network of lifelong friends, should be flattered because a newly single boomer guy, who’d have sex with anyone, suggests she sexually satisfy him, is incredibly disrespectful, and ignores every terrific quality about boomer women I mentioned. It’s myopic in the extreme, and reflects sadly and badly on boomer men as potential life partners. If you’re a recently single boomer man who was married for decades and has the pent-up sexual hunger of a sixteen-year old, keep in mind that the 60s are over, particularly regarding sexual behavior. Your first date with a boomer woman is not going to be sexual, but if you treat her with respect, you might just meet a potential life partner.
2. Disrespecting Women
A single boomer friend recently shared her story about a first date with a boomer guy. He picked her up at her door and they walked to his car, which was when he revealed his true feelings about women. “You can open your own door since you’re equal now.” Perhaps she should have known he was a knuckle dragger since he did tell her that he was recently divorced, but she’d given him the benefit of the doubt. A man who feels women no longer merit being treated in a feminine manner simply because they’ve won their legal equal rights is a special kind of jerk. There’s nothing about her equal rights that indicate a woman doesn’t want to be treated in a feminine manner. Opening doors for women isn’t about equality it’s about respect. Equal rights haven’t  made women less feminine.
3. I’m Falling In Love With You
The last words any boomer woman wants to hear from a stranger sitting across the table from her on a coffee date are, “I think I’m falling in love with you.” Not only does this point to your unstable emotional condition but it’s also a fair reason for her to get up and leave. No one falls in love at first sight accept in the movies, and even then it’s not believable. You’re new at dating and perhaps you’ve forgotten that it’s lust that’s immediate, and that love develops over time. Don’t make a fool of yourself by proclaiming your love for a woman you don’t even know.
Endangered Species
Take yourself off of the endangered species list guys. Pay attention to your own feelings as well as considering a woman’s feelings when you date. Perhaps it’s been a while since you felt much of anything beyond contempt and anger for your ex, but that’s not a feeling you want to carry into dating. You deserve to find happiness with a woman, and if you avoid making these 3 rooky dating mistakes you’ll be on a better glide path.
You may fall in love again, which for lots of divorced boomer guys is actually the first time. Treating women with respect will go a long way towards determining your success. It’s a whole new ball game since you last dated, and you’ll want to embrace a new dating paradigm. You have the rest of your life to enjoy sex, and keep in mind that sex with a woman you love is exponentially better than casual sex.