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Steps
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Make sure you're ready.
Be patient, you don't need to meet them until you are sure things are
serious in your relationship. Usually, after three of four weeks of
being together, meeting the parents is a good way of moving the
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2When you go to meet them, take a small gift. Try and find out from your partner if his parents have any favorite cookies, flowers or chocolates, or if you are going over for dinner, a bottle of wine. This will start everything off in a positive way.
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3Be cheerful. Nobody likes someone who moans and whines. Stay away from sad stories, comments on ex-boyfriends or any arguments you and your boyfriend have been having, his parents don't want to hear any of that. As long as you two look happy, they'll be happy, so keep the conversations on a positive note.
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4Stay calm and just be yourself. There's nothing worse than a fake, and it's totally obvious if you try too hard. Just calm down and try and enjoy yourself. If you are relaxed and not too shy or over-excitable then they'll feel much more comfortable being around you and conversation will come much more easily. When they ask you questions, for example about your future or career, just be truthful, but make sure you have confidence in your own plan.
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5Show an interest. Ask them questions about their son, about their jobs, their hobbies. This will help you really get to know them, and show that you're not self-absorbed. Also, if you find something in common then that's a great conversation topic and lots of bonus points. Don't forget to throw a few (but not too many) compliments their way as well, but no lying, if you think they have a nice home, tell them.
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6Dress to impress. You want to make a good first impression, so dress for the occasion. Find out exactly what you're going to be doing, if it's a fancy meal then dress smart, if you're only popping over for a cup of tea and a chat then dress casual but respectable. As long as you look like you haven't just rolled out of bed, and you don't dress too revealingly, then you'll be fine.
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7Remember, they're just people like you and me.
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8There is no reason to be nervous. To make sure you have a wonderful time with them, first ask your boyfriend about them. What do they like, what to they dislike, things like that. Try to make up in your head 3 new subject lines if the conversation gets kind of dull or uncomfortable. If you don't know much about what they are interested in, I suggest you research in a library or online more about that subject so you can have a good conversation without having to smile and nod your head, having no idea what they are talking about. Also, try not to use those 3 new subject lines, or as I like to call them, 'life lines', unless you really need to. Don't feel like you have to talk about everything with them, because remember, if they would like you to come back again for dinner, you need to have to learn new things they like and such, and do the whole process over again. So unless the conversation as plunged in a downwards spiral, don't use up all of your 'life lines'.
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9Good luck with the family!
Be yourself and don't be nervous
ReplyDeleteA valuable moral is needed. Simply be yourself
ReplyDeletethis is indeed a very good one...
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Be patient and be respectful, wear appropriate dress and show interest in your boy friend's parent.
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