Monday 30 March 2015

Couple looking a phone

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The bad thing about annoying relationship habits is that you don't usually notice them until someone else points them out.
Unfortunately, there really isn't anyone to point them out to you for fear of being labelled jealous or nosy, so you may never know you're doing the annoying thing.
How can you tell if you're guilty of these bad relationship habits? Check the eight listed below:
  1. The missing friend habit: You interact with your best friend about once a month -- to 'like' one of her posts on Facebook. When you finally do hang out with the group, you bring your partner along and you both keep looking at your watches, whispering to each other and wondering how early you can leave. The solution: A weekend with your friends -- without your partner. Remember: Your other relationships need nurturing too.
  2. The PDA habit: You kiss your partner in a cab, in a movie theater, in the back pew at church. You call each other silly syrupy names (like Sweetie). The thing is, you make your friends sick. You make parents cover their children's eyes. The solution: The next time you're in public, imagine your mother is seated next to you. Let's really hope this stops you.
  3. The (other) PDA habit: We're not talking about sloppy kisses; we mean your smartphone. Your manners fly out the door when you're glued to your mobile phone. You send emails at the dinner table. You tweet at the movies. You talk to your partner while simultaneously playing Candy Crush. The solution: Try to get through an entire evening without your PDA -- and focus on present company instead.
  4. The teasing habit: It's all meant to be fun, right? You tease him about his haircut, his clothes, his eating habits, his job, the barren walls in his apartment, the way he cleans his car, his toothbrushing, his sunglasses, his [fill in the blank]. After a while, it's not funny; it's actually pretty annoying and demoralizing. The solution: Don't try to go cold and stop the teasing -- it's not realistic. But try to trim it by 20 percent.
  5. The non-dating habit: You've found someone you love, so you don't need to go on useless dates anymore; the courtship is over! Taking your partner out to dinner and a movie sounds about as logical as taking a surprise vacation to the Himalayas. The solution: 8 p.m. Reservations. Wine. Candlelight. Romance. (Don't let it die.)
  6. The overanalyzing habit: You spend more time talking about the relationship than you do actually experiencing the it. Open communication is one thing, but when you take it to the lunatic level -- Where will we be in five years? What did it mean when you said... -- what you actually could be doing is sabotaging everything. The solution: On your next date night -- or any day -- try to live in the present instead of thinking about the future and spoiling the moment.
  7. The smothering habit: 9:05 a.m. text: 'Good morning! Get to work okay?' 10:10 a.m.: 'I'm soooo bored at work. You?' 10:11 a.m.: 'Is it 5 o'clock yet?' 10:45 a.m. phone call: 'Hey, what are you up to?' And it's not even lunchtime yet. The solution: One hour without contact. If that's too aggressive, try 10 minutes and work your way up. It's fine to want to be in constant contact, but give yourselves some time to miss each other.
  8. The TV habit: Every night's a threesome that includes you, your partner and your trusty old friend: the DVD. True, there's a lot to be said for the comfort of getting into your pj's and catching up on your shows together, but you can't always act like the Old Married Couple. Until, well, you actually are. The solution: One week without TV. You'll survive, seriously.


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