10 ways you're unconsciously destroying your relationship

culled from:pulse.ng

Relationships only succeed when the two people involved are always consciously making efforts focused on improving the union.

However, your relationship can fail if it is one-sided or either of you happens to be doing certain things that jeopardizes its growth.

Below are 10 things you might be doing (unconsciously) that destroys your relationship:

1. You only talk business, no pleasure: With two of you living busy lives, it's easy for you to fall into a conversation vortex. Between 'What's for dinner?' and 'Did you pay the electricity bill?' you can go days without just shooting the breeze. Think about the chats you had when you were first dating (that is, dreams and goals, not groceries and house chores) and strike up one of those.
2. You're too tired for sex: You claim to be too tired for sex but you had your eyes wide open for that Keeping Up With The Kardashians marathon on TV last night. Right? Here's an idea: why don't you try some lazy, low-energy sex?. You might be surprised at how much fun it is. An even bigger surprise? There's evidence that a good old-fashioned shag improves sleep.
3. You get enough togetherness: Most people prefer to floss on their own, but not you. You're the 'more is more' kinda girl. Jokes aside: if you have been buried in your relationship non-stop, you've probably been neglecting important things like friendships, hobbies and also, yourself. Time to tap back into some of the things that made your life awesome before. Trust us; your relationship will benefit from this.
4. You keep money secrets: This doesn't mean your partner necessarily need to know the price of every piece of clothing in your wardrobe, but if you have secret debt or unpaid tax issues, it's time to tell on yourself. A recent poll said that nearly one in three American couples with combined finances admitted to so-called financial infidelity (that is, lying about money). By being an open book now, it will be easier to stay honest down the road.
5. You expect him to be a mind reader: You want something (like a romantic weekend away) and are angry that your man hasn't guessed what that something is. The reality: Unless he stares into a crystal ball for a living, you might want to get real and give him a clue. There's no shame in being honest about what you want. What's more, asking for something dramatically ups the odds that you'll get it.
6. You talk crap about his family: You're not alone on this one. Most in-laws are a pain to deal with. That said, even if they are daytime-talk-show material, it's time to zip that lip. Complain to your besty, complain to your shrink, but don't ever complain to your man. Even if he agrees with every word you say, it's bound to cause stress and strife.
7. You fight dirty: Let's be honest. Everyone argues. Or, fights. But some couples know how to do it without damage. If you're guilty of hitting below the belt (like name calling or plate throwing), it's time to cut it out. Starting to see red? Take a time-out. Go for a long walk, clear your head, and come back when you're calm. Still can't tame your temper? Get in touch with a marriage and relationship counselor to teach you to fight right.
8. You always keep score: If you mentally tally each of your partner's infractions (texting through dinner - check; balled-up socks on floor - check), it's time to ask yourself why. The truth is, you're actually planning your next fight…in advance. Drop the scorecard. You and your man are on the same team, remember? So get it together.
9. Your sex life is too routine: You don't get this? Let's explain. Here's how it happens: you know he melts when you do that thing, so you do that thing. Every. Single. Time. *Yawns*. News flash: variety is the spice of life! Try mixing it up just a little. Throw in something unexpected: wear high heels to bed or initiate a quickie. A good 98% of Nest.com respondents say they keep it in the bedroom. So maybe, relocate a somewhere else? Small effort, huge payoff. Seriously.
10. You put your relationship last: You have amazing intentions; you'd love more one-on-one with your sweetheart. You think about romantic dinners or weekend getaways - but life always intervenes. Time to stop hoping and start doing. Pick up the phone and book a reservation for his favourite restaurant, or take a sick day to spend between the sheets. Do something that shows where your priorities really lie.