How to arouse passion in your marriage

culled from:pulse.ng

A lot of people are in loveless and sexless marriages, which makes them perpetually sad each day.

Eventually, the union turns into a happily 'never' after as the two people involved have no joy in the marriage.

If you are in this situation, how do you revive the dying fire in your home?

Below are some tips from the Pineapple Newspaper on how to arouse passionate love in your marriage:

• Turn off your gadgets and electronic devices once you're home: This might seem unrealistic and a little difficult for some people to abide by, but if your marriage means something to you, you would definitely try. Couples are losing their relationship to technology everyday. Stop using computers and phones the minute you get home, and engage with your partner and family. Social media is especially consuming couple time; and the use of technology has increased sexual addictions and emotional affairs. Focus your time, energy and attention on your partner, and make them a priority. Engage in quality conversations and give each other time for intimacy, especially on the weekends.
• Share household chores equally: Because both couples work in most households, it is only fair that the chores be shared equally between them. If it is left to only one partner, they will eventually become resentful and angry. Several studies show that when men contribute equally, they get rewarded more in the bedroom, as their ladies are not so tired. Also, when the woman picks up after a man, she sees him as a child – not her man. This leads to a spiral of lower passion and a loss of libido and respect. Studies also confirm that stress kills female sexual desire neurologically because sexual feelings begin in the brain for women. To feel sexual, anxiety and stress need to be low. This means if she is worrying about her 'to do' list and the chores that aren't done, she won't have the feelings to engage intimately.
• Your daily communication affects your sex life: How do you relate to your partner on a daily basis? Do you reach out by text to say something sweet or sexy for no reason, give surprise gifts, and greet your partner at the door to make them feel important? The truth is, the quality of your sex life is directly related to how you treat each other daily! If you are negative, criticize, complain or are moody and angry, you will repel your partner. The positive interactions should be 4 to 1 over the negative interactions. Be sure to consciously monitor what you do and say to your partner on a daily basis.
• Be creative in and out of the bedroom: Constant sexual routine is boring for both men and women, so be daring enough to experiment and take sex out of the bedroom to other places within the home and in nature. Be bold about it and use fantasy, role play as well as other activities that engage all the senses of pleasure – smell, touch, taste, sight and sound. Create a romantic, clutter-free bedroom that encourages intimacy with luxurious bedding, candles, music and scent. Since women are turned on visually first, ladies, dress alluring. Have fantasy sex once a week and do something unusual and wild. Sexual variety on a regular basis keeps a loving, passionate connection.
• Don't fake it in the bedroom: Believe it or not, a lot of women and men are faking their orgasms. This means there can be some underlying issues, either emotionally or physically (low energy or decreased libido) that need to be talked about in a loving, supportive way. Seek the professional advice of a relationship coach help you find a solution to rebuild your confidence and passion for each other like never before.