What you should know if your marriage is crumbling

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Though society has come to terms with the concept of divorce, the bible still does not support it.

If however, you unfortunately find yourself in such a situation, you have to know that that's not the end of the world.

Below are some useful tips to help you get through the difficult time:

• Let go of the pain and fears: When the bitterness wears off, it's time to awaken and move on. Put aside every anger and pain because you need to move forward and develop strength and stamina to be amazing, and allow your children understand and cope with the new situation.
• Forgive: Forgiveness is always the hardest part because you are so hurt especially if there was physical/verbal abuse in the marriage. However, you need to find it in your heart to forgive this person or else you will get so consumed with the bitterness and it starts to affect your outlook of life. Also, this could make you build a negative defense mechanism which can push good people that can help or support away from you.
• Come to terms with the reality: This means you need to give yourself a reality check and understand the situation you've found yourself. You also need to realize that such challenges are unexpected or difficult to understand, but can make you stronger in the end. You also need to seek and find resolution in your heart and mind because despite what is happening, it will take time, patience, commitment, devotion, loyalty and faith to pull through.
• Stand up for the right thing: Stand firm on what you believe in. Be accountable for your actions. Accept your roles and responsibilities as a parent, and do what's best for your children. Also, respect other people's rights to do the same. Recognize the other party either your ex husband/wife. It doesn't matter what happened in the past its about your children now. Remember it is now about giving and sacrifice.
• Expect change: Everybody makes mistakes sometimes in life but you also need to know when to leave the past behind with all the hurts and regrets. Draw attention to the good and moral and valuable for your children (if children are involved). Try and find harmony and balance in your new life and status.